Confession time.

So the last couple weeks I have had two clients who haven’t been 100% happy after delivering their weddings. Not trying to tute my horn, but this rarely happens… like ever.

So to have two people say that we missed this moment in their wedding, or they weren’t completely thrilled… it was hard to hear.

I realized that it completely changed my mood and my confidence level when it came to my business.

I had two weddings this past weekend and I walked in to them feeling insecure and inadequate as their photographer.

Well, it didn’t take long for the Lord to swoop in and convict me of my attitude.

I found these verses that I had written down a ways back (because of course this isn’t the first time I have struggled with this)…

Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.  (Philippians 2:3)

“For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.” (Galations 1:10)

See, I was feeling insignificant because I was allowing my worth to be based on a couple people’s opinions. I was living to impress them. And when something went wrong, my whole identity as an artist came crashing down.

Why do I do that? Why is it so tempting to live our lives in an effort to gain acceptance from others? How many times do we have to learn it will never make us feel complete?

I heard this story about this man who was shipwrecked on an island. He explained that when he saw the shore, he clung to a rock until the tide went down. Later a friend asked him, “Didn’t you shake with fear when you were hanging on the rock?”

He simply replied, “Yes, but the rock didn’t.”

If we live our lives seeking to impress others we will tend to feel like we are on a roller coaster of emotions (or maybe being tossed around in the oceans waves), but not with God. He is the Rock of Ages, who does not move. If we cling to Him, His strength sustains us. Our significance will not waiver, for it is found in Him and He is steady.

His constancy gives us more than just earthly value… but an eternal significance! His plan from the beginning of creation remains the same today. And we are part of it!

“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so that we can do the good things He planned for us long ago” (Ephesians 2:10).

Nothing can give us more purpose than that.

So today, remember that your worth and value only comes from a relationship with Him. Not on how many likes you have on your latest selfie, not on what your husband or your kids think of you, not on your business success… but from Him alone. And you can only receive that love, peace, and value if you are spending time with Him consistently. Let Him fill you up and show you the glorious plans He has for your life.

Thanks for letting me be honest for a minute!


  1. Jenny, I think it also helps to put yourself into the other person’s shoes. Perhaps they said you missed the moment because their weddings did not turn out to meet their expectations. I’ve seen people get so hung up on having the perfect wedding that they are blocked from what should be the joy of the occasion. Perhaps you didn’t capture the joy because genuine joy was overcome by the attempt to be perfect.

    I remember meeting you at the airport when my daughter and her (now) husband were having their engagement pictures done. The wind was fierce, and every time I looked at the poses all I could see was hair blowing in unflattering ways. There you were with just your camera, casually snapping away, no tripod, no entourage, and all I could think was, how in the world will these pictures turn out? But they were stunning! You beautifully captured the love that was there between the two people. Your pictures turned out as if they had been painted and so much better than what my eyes were seeing. Don’t ever doubt your gift!

  2. Well Jenny this was beautiful . I think a lot of us go through this and don’t share it . I love the way you put all in perspective . You are an awesome writer!

  3. Mary B. Darr says:

    So important in this business, or any for that matter. You are so incredibly gifted and kind-hearted. It is evident to all that your heart belongs to the Lord. So thankful for your talent, but even more, your heart! Great words.

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