the sparrows and the lilies

If He dresses the lilies with beauty and splendor, how much more will He clothe you?

If He watches over every sparrow, how much more does He love you?

I don’t know who needs to hear this today, but God loves you infinitely more than you can imagine.

There are times when we can hear the scripture in Matthew 6 that talks about not worrying about tomorrow and trusting in God’s provision. We know it in our heads, but it can feel hard to truly believe that sometimes.

This song has been a favorite for me recently.. I pray it encourages you too.

happy adoption month

November is #nationaladoptionmonth

Adoption is beautiful. It truly is. It’s such a picture of God’s redemption. Everyday I am overwhelmed with gratitude that God stepped in and changed the path for our boys. Jax and Josiah bring so much joy to our lives. I am very blessed to be their mom. But, the reality is there is no adoption without loss and pain . . . and grief. You have heard me say this before if you have followed our journey.

Years ago we became a foster family to these boys through hard circumstances. We became their forever family because attempts to reunify them with their biological family failed. I grieve the loss of my boy’s birth parents (all four of them). I am sad they are missing moments. I am sad for my boys that something so precious as a bond between a parent and child had to be broken.These are the bittersweet aspects of adoption. It’s beautiful. It’s heartbreaking. It’s a lot. But I’m so thankful we said yes. I am thankful to have an opportunity to love beyond my own means.


I walked in the boy’s room to clean the floor and I noticed this 🦒

It took me back. Jax received this giraffe when he was our foster care placement. I remember that time and how everything so felt up in the air and the future unknown. We had know idea what was next.

Years later, I am grateful everyday that I get to be his mom. Adoption is sweet yet at the same time it can be bitter. I constantly think of his biological family. I feel for them that they are missing out on the amazing kid that Jax is. It’s a battle of feelings.. some that I’m sure he has too.

Not sure why I wanted to share. Maybe for those who are in the shoes we were in years ago when this stuffie arrived. Or maybe for those who are considering putting those shoes on.

God has taught us so much through this boy. So thankful we said yes.

end of a chapter

Today marks the end of a journey. It’s the day our foster care license expires.

It’s bittersweet for sure. The past 8 years have been an incredible, ridiculously hard, amazing, life changing experience. We were able to see many children come through the doors of our home. They each taught us something. Their stories opened our eyes to see the world differently. Some stayed for days, some never left 🤪. We did this thing as a family. Together.

I want to thank God for putting this on our hearts years ago. And for giving us strength each time we desperately needed it. For giving us peace in the many unknowns. And most importantly for loving us so we could love these children and their families.

Thank you as well to you.. our community for loving, encouraging, and supporting us and these children too.

We are still passionate about foster care and will continue to advocate for these kids in other ways. We also are excited to begin mentoring new foster/adoptive families.

if you are ever interested in learning more about fostering or how you can help support other foster families, it’s a subject we’re always ready to talk about! Let us know.


I have been kind of MIA on this blog for awhile. To be honest, this year has got to have been one of the weirdest years ever.

2020. You keep surprising me.

One of these days, I may be able to come on here and actual share what I have learned through this season of quarantine, homeschooling, racial tension, business stress, and more.

But for now, just wanted to say hey.

And here’s my favorite part of the day… in one of my favorite places.



foster care awareness month

Hi there! There has been so much going on.. and I haven’t had the opportunity to sit and write lately.

But…. May is a great month! One, because summer is around the corner. I LOVE SUMMER! Another reason is because it is Foster Care Awareness Month.

It is a time where a lot of people talk about the realities of what is going on around us in the foster care system. It is a month that for first time, many people find out what’s happening in their own backyards!

There are currently more than 430,000 children living within the American foster care system. In our backyard here in South Florida, there are 2500 children in DCF Care.

If you are local to my area.. you can find the latest numbers here on this interactive map.

There are also hundreds of thousands of those children in foster care that are available to be adopted right now.

I heard a crazy stat… that if just one family out of three churches would adopt one of thse children.. it would eliminate orphans in America. Certainly three churches can come alongside one family and support them?

But.. it’s not happening. The average child waits THREE years to be adopted. Over 25% will wait FIVE years or more (and end up aging out of foster care).

So, each day this month on Facebook I have been sharing ideas of you can get involved.

I thought I would also put that list here.. so it’s easy to share and have all together. I will be adding to it each day this month. Maybe an idea or two will inspire you!

May 1-  First idea, and this is a fun and delicious one. Provide a meal once a month for a family who fosters. I can’t tell you how awesome it is when someone has done this for us. Whether it’s a home cooked meal, a gift card, or even someone picking up our bill when we are out to eat. It’s a little breath of encouragement!


May 2– Buy Birthday or Christmas gifts for children in foster care. Contact local agencies and add them to your list of presents!

May 3- Here is Day 3! And it’s an easy one. Donate your gently used items you don’t need want or need anymore. A lot of us have been into simplifying and cleaning out. So give your items to places that will provide them to foster families!

Place of Hope, Friends of Foster Children of Palm Beach County, Inc , Community Of Hope Foster Closet are just some of the foster closets in our area. (If you know of others put them in the comments)

It’s so awesome as a foster parent to grab items you need for FREE when you take in a new child. My boys sleep on a donated bunk bed currently.

Treasures for Hope is a thrift shop that sells items with proceeds going to those in foster care. Win win. You clean out things and it benefits others!


May 4- Pay for an activity for a foster child. Offer to pay for their music lessons or dance classes. Or maybe for them to play a season of soccer or baseball? These things get really expensive the more kids you have… so as a foster parent when someone takes the financial burden away for something like that… it’s so amazing! Plus, these kids should be able to be involved in extra curricular activities too! And if the other children in the home are doing them, it helps them to feel included.

If you don’t know a foster family personally… but your children are involved in extra curricular activities, maybe approach the director or owner and offer to them you are willing to help out if they know of a foster child. There are more foster families around then you think!

May 5- Offer a service to help out a foster family that will free up their time. For example, mowing/cleaning up their lawn, cleaning a pool, cleaning their home.. whether it’s you personally or you pay for a service for a little while, this is a huge help. Foster parents have extremely long days at times and have seasons where a lot of their time is just thrown into parenting children who have experienced horrible traumas. I know personally, those everyday house things can be hard to even manage in the midst of hard seasons (our pool may or may not be green currently.. and you don’t want to see my bathrooms 😬 lol).

If you own a pool or lawn company.. add that family to your rotation maybe once a month or every other. It does really help!


May 6- Help watch the kiddos! This could look like a few different things…

Watch all the kids and let the parents go out or even get an overnight to themselves. This gives us a much needed break to breathe, talk, and regroup. What we do is so hard emotionally and physically.. we need breaks.

Now, I know from experience that sometimes babysitting without us there just doesn’t work and it’s only more stressful because we are worried how our foster child may respond to someone else… so in those seasons…

Be an extra pair of hands when foster families go somewhere – offer to come along to the zoo, to the playground, to the beach. It gives you an opportunity to get to know the kids more.. and it’s gives the parents some help!
I’m so thankful for the times our parents, siblings, or friends have come along to spend time with us. Especially if we have a child who is in a hard season.. it allows us to take the time we need to with that child to get them back on track without it impacting everyone else as much.

Just offer and see what happens!

May 7- This is an easy one. Talk about it.

We have a crisis and need in our area. 8-11 children are being removed from their homes daily in our county. And just in Palm Beach County alone there are currently over 1600 kids under DCF supervision.

Choose to be aware.
Choose to tell others.
Choose to share ways to help.
Choose to help yourself.

May 8- Pray. And pray intentionally and specifically. Get to know the families fostering or the children in the foster care system.
Pray for the parents.
Pray for the children.
Pray for the children that have come and gone.
Pray for our judges and lawyers and case workers.

Commit to prayer.

May 9- Where are all my teachers, retired teachers, or really anyone who can teach?

You can help out foster children by offering to tutor. These children have so much transition and trauma in their lives.. often times keeping up in school is nearly impossible. A tutor goes a long way! Even just someone to work with them on their homework!

May 10- Here is day 10 of ways you can get involved.

We have seen a lot of news stories like this one lately.…/mother-and-boyfri…/1139919001/

The system failed to protect this child. It is broken.. and the system knows it. It’s overworked.. overloaded.

Take a minute today to contact your elected officials. Tell the people we vote for that something needs to change.…/Rep…/myrepresentative.aspx…

May 11-  This one isn’t easy. I say this to be real and honest.. but so worth it. It will open your eyes to things you never thought you’d see and feelings you never thought you’d feel.

Become a foster parent.

We need them so very badly!

One of the biggest impacts you can have on these kids to bring them in your home and love and care for them. Go to an orientation. Take that first step.

May 12- Pick up groceries or ask a foster family if they need to run an errand for them. Taking kids to the grocery store at times is near impossible.. someone calling up and saying.. “I have an hour, what I can get done for you today?” is a lifesaver!


May 13- Many people have more space in their hearts and family to take in additional children.. but literally don’t have enough space.

So… you can help by providing more!

Buy a foster family a bigger car.
Build an addition on their home.
Sell your bigger home at a great price to a foster family.

Or organize a fundraiser to raise money towards things that will provide more space!

I know from experience.. Foster parents feel bad to ask about those kinds of things.. but they would be a HUGE blessing.


May 14- It is a simple one.. but send a quick note or message to encourage a foster family. This journey is not easy.. but knowing others are thinking and praying for you is huge!

May 15- Donate bags and items towards Friends of Foster Children of Palm Beach County, Inc emergency bags.

Most of the time when children get removed.. it’s quick and they come without the every day items they need. These bags are an awesome gift!

May 16- Become a GAL. A Guardian Ad Litem is an advocate for foster children. They are a voice. They represent them in court and build a personal relationship with them and those involved in their case. If you aren’t in a position to foster or adopt.. but want to help make a real difference, this is it.

It’s maybe 10 hours a month. So you can do this while working or if you have your own children!

To learn more.. visit Guardian ad Litem Program-Palm Beach County, Floridaor Speak Up for Kids Palm Beach County

May 17- Mentor a young adult who has just aged out of foster care. If you are looking for a local connection, contact Villages of Hope. The stats are not good for children who come out of foster care. 20% end up homeless instantly. Less than 3% graduate from college. 7 out of 10 girls who age out of foster care become pregnant.. which keeps the cycle going. Many of these children will be arrested and serve time. They need a stable adult who can help them learn. Would you consider?

May 18th- Write a number. Write 1600 on your hand. When other’s ask, explain that is how many children are in foster care here in Palm Beach County. Tell them about some of the things you have learned! Spread the word!

May 19th- Be patient with foster children. These children come from some hard places. They may have only felt rejection. If you volunteer at a church, coach a team, work in a school, shop at the store… please be patient. A little kindness and understanding goes a LONG way.

May 20th- Buy diapers and wipes and donate them to a local Foster
Closet. Foster babies need them! You can help provide them!

May 21st- Donate your airline miles to a foster family so they can go on a trip. Or maybe pay for a gas card? Traveling with extra children is more expensive.. but can also create really memorable experiences for these kids!

May 22- This goes out to my fellow foster parents… let someone know when you need a break! Reach out to someone when you need a shoulder to cry on. Too often we think because this is something we signed up for (literally.. we signed so many things)… that we need to keep the hardships to ourselves. Kinda that “you made your bed, now lay in it mentality.” Listen just because we knew this would be hard.. doesn’t mean that it doesn’t feel like it at times. Send an SOS… we all have our moments we need them!
May 23- Did you know that the graduation rate for children in foster care is right at 50%? Can you imagine being 18-20 and living in a group home or on your own and having no one to celebrate the fact that you successfully completed high school or college? Imagine no more, Friends of Foster Children of Palm Beach County, Inc is having a graduation party for the 35 foster children who are graduating from high school or college this year. All of their resources will be used to get laptops for these children so if you have any left over graduation decorations that you will just throw out after the festivities are over, would you be willing to give them? They are also collecting gift cards to give them for teen friendly places like Starbucks, Dunkin, Gamestop, Best Buy, Walmart, Target, Mcdonalds,Burger King, Wendy’s, Papa John’s, Amazon, etc. Head over to their FB Page for more info!

May 24- Donate your formal wear… from prom, weddings, cruises, etc. This will give foster teens a chance to shop for free for their big events.

May 25- If you see something, do something. Sometimes people are struggling. They need help. Get to know others in our community. Maybe your help or relationship can prevent their children having to be removed. Sometimes kids can’t speak for themselves… so say something (report it if needed). Maybe it can prevent further abuse or neglect. Please just choose to do something.

May 26– Mamas… done having kiddos? Donate your maternity clothes to Place of Hope JoAnn’s cottage. This is a home for foster teens who are expecting.

May 27- Donate your luggage or duffles. Unfortunately, many foster children have to bounce around due to placement issues. They need bags to be able to carry their possessions. Foster families and Emergency shelters always need extra bags or luggage to be able to send with children when they leave.

May 28- Are you great at organizing? Contact a local foster closet like Community Of Hope Foster Closet Group Friends of Foster Children of Palm Beach County, Inc and more… Let them know you are willing to come in and help sort and organize donations!

May 29- Host a Date Night! Get with your friends, line up a bunch of volunteers and a location… and offer to watch children for foster parents so they can get a dinner out by themselves.

May 30- Be an Advocate at your church for Foster Care. Talk to your church leadership about the ways your church family can get involved.

May 31- Check out the book, Everyone Can Do Something by Jason Johnson here. Maybe it will spark some fresh and even better ideas of ways you can support foster children and families where you are.

Thanks for reading! I look forward to seeing the love you will show and the differences it will make!

baby steps

When this little boy first came to our home he would react in ways that didn’t make sense. For example, if there was an emotional moment (happy or sad) in a movie or tv show… he often times would do something odd like punch the person closest to him or go in his room and knock something down.

He had feelings.. but didn’t know what to do with them.

As I sit here tonight I think about the progress and growth he has made. We are watching a movie… and there was a sad part. Instead of doing something explosive.. he came over and sat with me gently. He’s relaxed and secure. Next month he turns 5 (I know he looks like he’s 7). That’s means for half of his life he has lived with us. I am super grateful for these glimpses of redemption… because the first half of his life was a rollercoaster.

I’m just so thankful I get to see his story play out. We are still in the beginning in so many ways… and there are still times this is super hard. But God is good. He heals. He restores. I’m already seeing this. God will redeem. Just like the meaning of this guy’s name. ❤️


give me a break

Give me a break.. Give me a break.. break me off a piece of that Kit Kat bar! Actually.. we do utilize chocolate therapy quite often… but this post isn’t about that today.

I am learning after almost 15 years of marriage… we need breaks!

We need to be able to get away together (and honestly we need to work better at this.. it is hard with four kids)… like vacations, date nights, even a night away here and there.

But, we also need to provide protected time for each other to take breathers.

Parenting. Marriage. Work. Friends. Family. Ministry. Neighbors….  Life is well, very full at times. Not bad.. just a lot.

I think of Jesus’ example in scripture. Him and the disciples had been going going going… and Jesus stops and says, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest (Mark 6:31).” Jesus invites His disciples to stop, sit, be still and be renewed.

We need to take breaks on purpose and with purpose. Not just doing something to waste time.. but time to get away from the loud. Be still and listen. Collect thoughts. Be renewed.

We need to be intentional.

And wives, can I just talk to you for a minute? We need to give our husbands the chance to do this.. guilt free.

Think of it as being on a team. Sometimes the other person needs to tag out for a bit. And if we think of this as being a thing we are doing for each other TOGETHER.. it doesn’t become a “me vs him” thing. Are there going to be seasons where he may need more breaks than I do? And vice versa.. Yes.  Absolutely.  Let’s give them freely. Make it a priority.

Get with your hubby.. look at the calendar and pencil in some sanity hours for you both! Some together.. some individually.

Happy resting!



pulling weeds, planting seeds

I’m not going to lie… I am really discouraged. It was one of those days I couldn’t quite see the light at the end of the tunnel.. 😭 which for me is pretty bad because I’m usually the “upside” kinda girl.

I committed to doing this “what are you grateful for today” thing every day in November (you can follow that journey on social media if you want to).

But today, I wanted to sulk. Today was hard. I didn’t want to be grateful.

But, as a laid down to go to sleep… I felt convicted.

I do have a lot to be grateful for.. way more then the amount of days in November.

And especially on a night like tonight, I’m thankful for a Heavenly Father who walks with us during those rough times, whose promises never fail. I’m thankful I get to be a mom.. even though it was not fun or easy today… I know it is a gift.

We have seasons like these as parents where we are planting seeds and pulling weeds… in order to produce a fruit later. I know this, I just need to remember it. So I choose to “think on these things” as I sleep tonight. And I’m very thankful tomorrow is a new day. ❤️



It is national adoption day tomorrow. I’m so thankful for adoption and also for the journey leading up to it.

Gosh SO. MANY. EMOTIONS. So many times I have felt out of my league. In way over my head. But I’m learning God didn’t invite us into this expecting that we will always have what it takes, but He does promise that when we don’t, He still does.

I love what another foster parent said, “That’s our hope and assurance – that what’s completely out of our capacity and control is absolutely in His.”

You guys have heard me talk about the bittersweet aspects of adoption. It’s beautiful. It’s heartbreaking. It’s a lot. But I’m so thankful we said yes. I am thankful to have an opportunity to love beyond my own means. To feel Gods love in a way I never had before.

adoptionrocksToday, I’m so very thankful for these two silly faces and that I get to be their mommy.